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I lived in constant fear: How horrific paedophile Matthew Falder made my life hell

A young woman has spoken of the nightmare abuse she suffered at the hands of sadistic paedophile Matthew Falder.

The victim, who was still a schoolgirl when the abuse began, has been left in constant fear and terrified to meet new people.

To avoid pubic humiliation, the young woman was blackmailed into eating dog food and licking toilets after being "sucked in" by Falder.

Three of his victims also said the horrific abuse they suffered had them on the brink of taking their lives.

Cambridge University graduate Falder, 29, admitted 137 offences against 46 victims, male and female, many of whom he blackmailed, after duping them into thinking he was a female artist, seeking nude photos for his artwork.

A photo from a custody interview with Matthew Falder, who continually answered no-comment to the interviewers questions. (Image: National Crime Agency)

'I'm scared to meet new people'

With her whole life ahead of her one of Falder's victims has spoken about the constant fear she lives in and her inability to trust new people.

She said: "I'll always be scared of meeting new people."

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She lived in terror, worrying he would send compromising images to her friends and family, unless she followed his instructions.

The woman, who is anonymous to protect her identity, is now slowly starting to trust again after Falder effectively destroyed "all relationships" in her old life, with his total abuse of her trust.

Duped into sending nude images

She was first approached by Cambridge graduate Falder on Gumtree after posting an advertisement as a babysitter to earn money, while studying for exams.

Falder, from Birmingham, posed as a depressed female artist called "Liz", and then duped her into sending nude images which he would use as "tasteful" illustrations.

But as soon as she sent the images, Falder's manner changed from "nice" to "threatening" as he sprang a trap on the then schoolgirl, which he came to repeat on his other hapless victims – many of them teenagers.

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Forced to lick toilet seats and used tampons

Falder's depraved mind concocted a series of humiliating poses for his victim.

He forced the young girl to take pictures of herself licking toilet seats, loo brushes and a used tampon and threatened to share the images with her family and friends.

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She said: "I was ashamed, and obviously you've heard what the pictures were like, they were awful and I didn't want any of my friends to think that I wanted to do that."

Photo from the arrest footage of Matthew Falder, one of Britain's most prolific paedophiles, who has been jailed at Birmingham Crown Court for 32 years.

She said: "But I felt like no-one would understand because there was no-one there holding a knife to me saying 'You will do this', even though it felt like that."

The ordeal has "massively" affected Falder's victim, who stood in court to confront her tormentor and testify to the effect of his vile handiwork.

Bombarded with messages

As part of his abusive campaign, Falder would constantly send messages to his victim, leaving her in a constant state of worry and fear.

Matthew Falder

Matthew Falder was jailed for 32 years after admitting a string of 137 offences.

When arrested the 29-year-old called it the "rap sheet from hell."

Here is the full list of offences Falder plead guilty to.

: Arranging or facilitating the sexual exploitation of a child x 1

:: Blackmail x 12

:: Blackmail, conspiracy to x 4

:: Blackmail, encouraging or assisting an offence of blackmail, believing it will be committed x 2

:: Causing or inciting a child to engage in sexual activity x 3

:: Causing or inciting the sexual exploitation of a child x 20

:: Distribute indecent images of a child, conspiracy to x 2

:: Distributing indecent images of children x 12

:: Encouraging or assisting the commission of offences of taking, making or distributing indecent images x 6

:: Forced or compulsory labour x 1

:: Fraud by representation x 23

:: Intentionally encouraging or assisting an offence of blackmail x 1

:: Intentionally encouraging or assisting an offence of child exploitation x 1

:: Intentionally encouraging or assisting an offence of rape x 3

:: Intentionally encouraging or assisting of offence of sexual activity with a child family member x 1

:: Make indecent images of child, conspiracy to x 2

:: Making indecent images of children x 7

:: Malicious communication x 5

:: Participating in the activities of an organised crime group x 3

:: Possession of a paedophile manual x 2

:: Possession of extreme pornography x 1

:: Possession of indecent images of children x 1

:: Possession of indecent images with a view to their distribution x 2

:: Publishing an advertisement about distribution of indecent images x 1

:: Publishing an obscene article x 3

:: Sending an electronic communication with intent to cause distress or anxiety x 5

:: Sending electronic communication with intent to cause distress, conspiracy to x 3

A further 51 offences will lie on file as part of Falder's plea agreement.

Speaking anonymously, the girl, who first physically met Falder when he appeared in the dock of Birmingham Crown Court for his crimes, said: "It was messages every day, so it felt like forever."

She added: "Every day when I woke up, there would be a message.

"When I came home from school, there would be a message."

Falder targeted some of his victims by setting up cameras in halls of residence. (Image: National Crime Agency)

She said: "When I wasn't actually talking to him, I was worried about when the next message was going to come through."

At school she could not concentrate and was "scared" to go out or risk meeting her tormentor, more still "ashamed" for what she was being forced to do.

She added: "I didn't tell anyone."

Totally alone

In the wake of her abuse the victim says every relationship she had, friends and family, has broken down.

She said: "I don't talk to my family anymore, at all."

"I guess for me I felt like they wouldn't understand and didn't understand what had happened to me", she said, adding that the fact it happened "online" meant "people find it harder to understand".

"All relationships broke down," she said.

"It's hard to have a family and a partner and friends when you don't trust them.

"Eventually they get upset that you don't trust them and they just leave."

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She is now making new friends but said "I'll always be scared of meeting new people."

She added: "I'm really careful now with what I say."

The internet is a dangerous place to be

The young woman has urged other teenagers using the internet to be careful what they say to the strangers they meet online, adding "it's a dangerous place to be".

Looking to the future, she said: "I hope one day I can rationalise the fact that not everyone wants to hurt me."

She added: "It'll always be there in the back of my mind, that not everyone is trustworthy."

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