Monique Price believes she has had sex more than 1,000 times with more than 100 sexual partners.
She’s not bragging about her excellent dating skills, though. Monique describes herself as a sex addict, and says that her obsession with sex almost ruined her life.
Monique’s addiction began when she first had sex at age 14. At 15 she engaged in group sex with multiple men, pretending she was 18 so she could be involved.
When she went to her GP about what she described as ‘uncontrollable urges’, she was told she was just experiencing teenage hormones.
From that first sexual experience, Monique began regularly meeting older men online and lying about her age so she could have sex. She snuck men into her house when her parents weren’t around, sent naked photos of herself to people online, and began filming porn to satisfy her insatiable sexual desires.
‘When I was a young girl I could feel my body having these uncontrollable urges and weird feelings,’ Monique explains. ‘When I went to the doctor he told me it was teenage hormones.
‘He asked me if I was sexually active but of course I lied because my mum was in the room.
‘The first time I had sex when I was 14 it was so painful and I never thought I’d do it again.
‘But then I started chatting to men online and I would lie about my age so that they would meet me.
‘Having the orgy was a new and wild experience to me and after that I became absolutely addicted to sex and needed it all the time.’
Things started to spiral out of control. By 25, she’d had sex with more than 100 different sexual partners, and had been diagnosed with multiple STDs – her constant and impulse sex meant she hadn’t been using protection, even when she was pregnant.
‘I didn’t realise what I was doing was dangerous because I was only thinking about myself,’ says Monique.
‘I was definitely a bad mother. I would put my children to sleep and then leave the house to have sex and wouldn’t come back for days. Everyone in my family was angry with me and did not trust me at all.
‘Even when I was pregnant with my fourth child, the desire for sex just get stronger because of the hormones and I would have unprotected sex with lots of different guys.
‘I picked up STDs that could have killed my unborn child and still I didn’t stop because my body didn’t want me to.
‘I was so stuck in a deep dark hole and didn’t know how to get out. I thought my life was over.’
It was only when she met Brandon, a forklift driver, that Monique began to have hope again. What started as a one night stand turned into a relationship, with Brandon proposing eight months later.
It was Brandon who helped Monique to deal with her addiction, allowing her to view sex as ‘loving and romantic’.
‘When I met Brandon he wasn’t like any other guy I had met before,’ Monique says.
‘He made me feel so safe and I fell in love with him straight away. He saved my life.
‘I realised that he loved me because he wasn’t like any other man I had been with before. He actually cared about me and wanted to start a family with me.
‘Brandon kept begging me to give up my sex addiction before I got myself killed but at the time I didn’t see myself as a mother or wife material. I even wanted to give our unborn baby up for adoption.
‘But he made me realise my mistakes and helped me take back control of my life. He helped me start going to sex addiction therapy groups which I still attend now.
‘He asked me to marry him and now we’re engaged and have a baby together. He looks after my other three kids like they were his own. We are a real family.’
Of course, Monique’s addiction hasn’t magically disappeared. She still craves sex, and has to battle the urge to ask Brandon for sex ‘at least six times a day’.
The couple now limit the number of times they have sex to just twice a week, to keep Monique’s addiction controlled and allow sex to be loving and romantic.
Monique is sharing her story in the hopes of raising awareness of sex addiction, and making others struggling to feel less alone.
‘Sex addiction is like a drug addiction,’ Monique explains. ‘You will do anything to get that hit and you don’t care how you get it or who you hurt along the way.
‘It is just this uncontrollable urge that takes over your whole mind and body.’